Sadly, in today's world, flowers mean nothing if there's no action of love behind them. Show me by action, don't tell me and don't buy me flowers. Show me your commitment.
A friend of mine recently said she was going to the gym to keep her marriage mistress tight. Yes, ladies, we have to mistress-proof our marriages and stay in shape.
Even worse, before marriage, we have to mistress-proof our relationships.
I once went out with a man who had regular dinners with one of his female friends. He said he didn't have the money to take me out to dinner, but he always had the money to go out with her. It didn't make sense. And he never wanted to tell people we were dating, especially the other woman because he said it would hurt her feelings. Well, if they weren't dating, what was the problem? Hiding our relationship? Finally, I threw in the towel.
This is part of our world. There are people with a lack of commitment, a lack of honesty and a lack of kindness. Many men don't want it all anymore. They are many men bailing on their third marriage and looking for wife number four. Well, why do they think it would work now if it hasn't worked in the past?
There's a new book on the market entitled Why Men Are Boycotting Marriage, Fatherhood and The American Dream by Dr. Helen Smith. Yes, marriage is a legal contract and it scares off some men, but if you're looking for marriage, you don't want those men anyway.
There's still hope. I know lots of people in good, solid marriages. There are marriages that are absolutely mistress-proofed because the men AND women are committed. But if you're looking for someone over the age of 40, most of the good folks are already in committed marriages.
In 1965, Paul Harvey predicted that our world was going to change dramatically, especially the traditional marriage. He was right.
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